Diagnosing People Pleasing . . .

• Wired for Freedom

How do you really know if you are a people pleaser, and who cares if you are one? Let's start with who cares. It's miserable to be a people pleasure because you aren't comfortable in your own skin. You are constantly looking for approval from others and paying attention to their feelings and thoughts about you, rather than developing a safe harbor inside. That is enough to create so much stress that you eat, spend, work, smoke, drink, pill pop and zone out on television, computer games or the Internet.

Here's a quick way to diagnose yourself as a people pleaser or not. Walk into a room at a cocktail party, parenting group, work meeting, and notice what occurs with your connection to yourself? If it goes out the window and you tune in to the other person's feelings and needs and blank out on your own? You're a people pleaser and Deanne's Wired for Freedom: People Pleaser's course will give you just the tools and support, and community to clip the circuits that fuel that tendency. Enjoy!

We are just starting a new telephone course facilitated by Deanne Hamilton, who has more than 20 years experience with EBT, in separating from People Pleasing. Most people address smoking, drinking, overeating and all those hard lined behavioral excesses, but where does people pleasing fit it. It fits in as the foundation for the whole range of behavioral external solutions.

If you are interested we have just launched a People Pleasing Wired for Freedom group here.