Tiger Woods - Golf As A Love Affair

I play golf, although not well and a shoulder injury has kept me from playing much, but I felt really sad to see what was going on with Tiger and his family.  I have followed his career, and his family, and it is just plain sad, but what a gift when the grieving is over -- and I'm not quite there, so I will look for that gift by using The Cycle Tool . . .your Cycle may be very different.

Just the Facts:

I followed you for the last 10 years. I watched your ball go into the hole, tipping in, with my dad, and we laughed and cheered. I saw your photos of your wife and children, and cheered you on.

Natural Flow of Feelings"

I feel angry that you hurt her. I feel angry that your wife was pregnant and you were seeing other women.

I feel sad for your family. I feel sad for you.

I feel afraid nobody in this world is perfect. I feel afraid that I didn't see you.

I feel guilty that I hoped you were the person I thought you to be.

Nab a Stress Circuit:

My unreasonable expectation: You were perfect.

My unreasonable expectation: If you are perfect than I can latch on to that perfection.

Build a Joy Circuit:

My reasonable expectation: You are human.

My reasonable expectation. If you are human then I can better  latch on to being human.

Positive, powerful thinking: I can do that.

Essential Pain: I have a dark side. You have a dark side. I must face myself daily.

Earned Reward: I can face myself with compassion. I don't have to be perfect to be wonderful. Nor do you.

Grind In?

I expect myself to be human.